Begin Experiencing Joy……Right Now!
Do you ever feel like life is stagnant? Do you feel like a wind-up doll. You wake up, go to work, come home, go to sleep, and repeat. I certainly do! Unfortunately, this can become a disappointing, unfulfilling life cycle. A cycle like this will be sure to extinguish any flame of motivation that you have. Like a candle being thrown into the ocean, your spark will be gone. This cycle develops because you begin to overlook the here-and-now. Some people are constantly chasing something greater, whether that be the next promotion, the next happy hour, the next holiday, or the next vacation. Others are stuck in the past and ruminating over regrets. Although it is great to learn from our mistakes and set goals for the future, it’s important to remain present in the moment. You don’t need to overcome regret or achieve goals to experience joy. In fact, you can experience this right now by actively participating in the here-and-now.
Here are three ways to ground you in the moment and bring joy back.
1.Why did you wake up today?
Striving for something greater is not a bad thing. However, it often becomes the main focus and the present moment wastes away. Making an effort to focus on what you have accomplished already and where you are currently, may be a game changer. This can help reinstate a sense of self and happiness. You can do this by asking yourself a few simple questions:
- Why did you wake up today?
- What have I achieved to get me where I currently am?
- With who do you currently have a close meaningful relationship with?
- What are 3 positive things that have happened today ( Could be as simple as waking up 15 minutes earlier to make your own coffee)
All of those questions help refocus your attention on what you have already done. They also refocus attention on what you already have, like meaningful relationships. Hopefully by answering these questions (or variation of) you can begin to escape that vicious cycle of longing/ruminating and begin living in the present moment.
2. How do you feel, right now?
Have you ever taken the time to actually experience how you are feeling in the present moment? Often, people are thinking about how they are going to feel, how they want to feel, and how they did feel. They often forget to think about how they feel right now. This is essential to well-being. You are blessed with a range of emotion and it is important to take advantage of each one of them.
Taking the time to ground yourself and assess your current emotional state is a healthy practice. It will allow you to refocus. There are times where you may be missing out on happiness because you are too busy focusing on the past and/or the future. Next time you get a cup of coffee or ar engaged in a meaningful conversation with a co-worker make a conscious effort to be completely present. Be aware of all five senses as you are engaged. This can help you to really absorb some of the daily joy you have been missing out on.
3. Just say hello!
People walk with their heads down and headphones up. However, if you begin to pay attention to your daily routine you may begin to notice the same people. Maybe you buy coffee from the same Starbucks barista, or you go to the gym super early and see the same people, or maybe you ride the train with the same commuters. Have you ever said hello? If not, I would suggest trying this. For one, this could be the start of a relationship. Relationships can keep you grounded and present. It’s in a relationship that you discuss how you are doing and what is going on in your life. Furthermore, as a participant in the relationship you may become invested in the lives of those around you. That is be a beautiful thing. That investment gives you the opportunity to ask how the other person is currently doing and why, which can also ground you. So just say hello!.